As the title says the idea of "coming out" has been a lot in my head recently. It's not really because i feel the need to do it , but because of a few other things. Tho before that i want to quote a few points from the "Coming out tips" post from this site i found very funny.
... 2. Never come out in a moving vehicle. ... 8. Be sober! ...16. If your audience had that deer in the headlights look, don’t make any quick moves. 17. Breathe. (seriously)
I started thinking about this for a few reasons. First was Micky's comment on a post from a few days ago. The second thing were the videos of people's coming out stories on Youtube , posted on the same site as the quote from above.
Most of the videos had a very positive note to them. It was how guys came out to their friends and family and how this was such a relief and everything was such so much better. Micky's point of view(for my post) was that the coming out thing would be good just because people would not throw stupid, juvenile and infuriating gay jokes in my presence.
I personally don't think that a few words said to your family and friends can make such a big positive change. I'm actually thinking that doing so would bring far more down sides thanks to the ignorant and rudimentary thinking of some people. It could alienate friends and make some people be aggressive to you just because you are different. It can also be bad for my future career. I also don't like the notion of "coming out" , because i see it in a way as me coming to you and explaining myself as different from the norms that someone has set. I should be able to go hand in hand with the person i love and that shouldn't be a problem. Maybe i'm too idealistic i don't know.
This is not to say that i think people shouldn't come out. On the opposite , gays fighting for their freedom of speech and ability to express themselves as they wish. I think this has lead to making our society a bit more accepting.
But i guess maybe i'm scared of change or some could call me gutless , but i don't plan to go and tell everyone that i like guys. It's probably the way i am i don't know and just wouldn't see myself any happier if i did it.
Tho if i get a boyfriend i can rethink my way of thinking. So guys i'm single :P just phone me and we can think of something :P
